Kristen Ulmer on Fear

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How To Make Friends With Your Fear

Have you been trying to conquer your fear and anxiety? Maybe it’s time to stop. In this episode of Woman Worriers, host Elizabeth Cush interviews Kristen Ulmer, a former extreme skier who is now a master facilitator, fear specialist and author of The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won’t Work and What to Do Instead.

Anxiety IS fear. We started calling it ‘anxiety’ because we have this stigma around the word ‘fear.
— Kristen Ulmer

Show Notes:

Overcoming, rationalizing, letting go… That’s how conventional wisdom talks about fear. Kristen Ulmer, who was once voted the most extreme woman athlete in North America, says we’re going about it all wrong. After studying with a Zen master for 15 years, she has developed a new approach to fear and anxiety and all their related problems. In this episode of the Woman Worriers podcast, host Elizabeth Cush, of Progression Counseling in Annapolis, Md., talks with Ulmer about how to step out of the dark and into your best life by shifting into fear.

Listen and learn:

  • How what most people are teaching about fear is hurting us, rather than helping us

  • Why we need to change the language we use around fear — and the words we need to eliminate

  • Signs that the “war” against fear is unwinnable

  • The relationship between anxiety and fear

  • The role of the amygdala — a primitive structure at the base of the brain — in processing our experiences

  • Why modern life provokes so much fear

  • How repressing fear or trying to ignore it can lead to panic attacks, depression, rage and other problems

  • Why we can’t think our way out of fear and anxiety

  • Why fear is one of the best parts of life — and what it can teach us

  • What insomnia, post-traumatic stress disorder and burnout have in common

  • What fear is — and it’s NOT in your mind

  • Why your relationship with fear is the most important relationship in your life — and what takes to become intimate with fear

  • Questions to ask yourself about your fear

  • Why we need a new definition of emotional intelligence

  • The four levels in the shift toward a new way of looking at fear

  • Why we need a little anxiety in our lives

  • How to start a “fear practice” in your life

Learn More

> Kristen Ulmer’s website

> The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won’t Work and What to Do Instead by Kristen Ulmer

> Kristen’s at-home courses

> Progression Counseling


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