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It’s Time To Quiet Your Critic
The wonderful thing is that we don’t have to sit idly by and listen! We can challenge and quiet the inner critic who keeps us stuck. With counseling, we can learn to be mindful and begin to recognize the negative messages, and why we hear them. When we begin to pay attention we can then challenge our unhelpful, negative commentator. We can learn self-compassion and to embrace our imperfections.
4 Steps to Recognize Your Inner Critic
1. Take note of your physical sensations when a new situation or opportunity presents itself.
2. Sense whether you're feeling uncomfortable, anxious, or stressed out.
3. Pause and take a few slow deep breaths.
4. Ask yourself with curiosity and without judgment, "What is the message my body is telling me?"
- I’m scared.
- I can’t do this because________.
- Others will judge me if I don’t succeed.
- Why try, I will fail.
- I am not worthy.
- I will be rejected.
Respond With Care
As you recognize these negative internal messages you can start to question their validity. Is the threat real? A creepy guy or girl? A physical or emotional harm? If it's your inner critic that’s keeping you from moving forward, respond with care and self-compassion. Then you can begin to challenge your Negative Nelly. It’s not always easy to understand what the inner critic wants us to hear, but meditation and mindfulness can help.
Tara Brach’s R.A.I.N. meditation can help you recognize the negative message and respond with care.
How Do We Get Unstuck?
Feeling uncomfortable is necessary if we want to move decisively towards our goals. Those tasks that make us feel unsettled create new opportunities to push beyond our everyday experiences. You might still feel anxious, scared, or worried in new situations. The key is to be able to put those uncomfortable feelings into perspective and to respond from a positive place.
It’s Time To Grow
Counseling can help you understand how your inner critic holds you back, how to acknowledge the negative thoughts and find the path towards growth.
Are you ready to move ahead, to makes some changes, to challenge your Negative Nelly, to get unstuck?