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Sharon Martin on Finding Your Voice
If you have trouble asking for what you need, this episode of Woman Worriers is for you. Host Elizabeth Cush and her guest, therapist and author Sharon Martin, talk about how to find your voice and why you might be silencing it.
“We have a much greater chance of having our needs met if we can directly tell somebody what they are.”
Show Notes:
If always doing for others leaves you feeling exhausted, overwhelming and maybe even resentful, you might need help. Have you asked for it? Many of us who are so good at meeting others’ needs don’t even know where to begin when it comes to our own. In this episode of the Woman Worriers podcast, host Elizabeth Cush, LCPC, of Progression Counseling in Annapolis, Md., welcomes back Sharon Martin, LCSW, a San Francisco Bay-area psychotherapist and author of the Happily Imperfect blog and The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism for a discussion about asking for what you need—whether it’s help with the dishes or just a hug—why it can be so hard, how to get started and the many benefits of learning to identify what you need and to ask for it.
Listen and learn:
The first thing most women need to do if we want to start asking for what we need
Why it’s hard for so many women to take the first step
Why we so often overlook our own needs—and what we need to recognize in order to move forward
Why putting names to your feelings matters
Why so many of us end the day by binging on TV and eating junk food
The simple question we need to start asking ourselves that could make all the difference
Why it’s not selfish to ask for what you need—and what can happen if you don’t
Why you shouldn’t apologize when you ask for something
How not asking for what you need might be affecting your relationships
The magical thinking trap that many of us fall into
How our perfectionism can get in the way of asking for what we need—and how social media can make it even harder
Why getting what you need is sometimes easier than you realize
Which needs you can meet for yourself and which you can’t
The role our upbringing plays
Why getting your needs met is not an all-or-nothing proposition and how you might negotiate
What happens when someone says “No” to your request—and how to ask so you’re less likely to hear it
The bigger questions you might want to ask yourself
How self-compassion can help as you move forward
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